The other night I was home alone. I quickly asked friends on Facebook for girl movie recommendations. I usually have a house full of boys so girly movies are out of the question. I headed to Redbox and picked up The Vow. It was a good movie and I was texting my girlfriend in Alabama throughout the movie (when you live far away from one of your best friends, you have many text conversations).

At the end of the movie I asked her, “You think our hubby’s would do the same for us if we lost our memory?” She responded, “IDK . . . I wondered the same thing. Movies stink because they aren’t everyday reality.” She nailed it. One major problem we have right now in books and movies is they are not everyday reality. Brad and I often joke when something goes wrong that you don’t see that in the movies.


Movies leave us full of wonder and discontentment.
They create fabulous love stories and steamy romance and we walk away wondering why we don’t have the same.
Romance is portrayed as sexy bodies coming together or “Magic Mike” stripping for women.
Books, even Christian romance novels, create characters so unrealistic women are left wondering why they don’t have that kind of man.

The problem is that the message is so subtle we don’t realize we are being sold discontentment for nine dollar movie ticket. We leave doubting if what we have is good enough, sexy enough, or romantic enough.

God’s ultimate picture of love is sacrifice and laying down your life for the other. Yet, we as women long for romance and a great story. We all long to be that woman your man goes crazy over and as long as we see that unrealistic picture of love, the longer we will be disappointed.

Choose today to focus on God’s version of Real Love.

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.  Love never fails. “ I Corinthians 13